Create the Feeling of Home Through Ritual

This past year I’ve undergone an emotional transformation by changing the habits I practice at home. As a business owner and mom of two I used to find myself racing from thing to thing, barely stopping to take a breath between tasks, errands and parenting.

I came to realize that my happiness is paramount to creating the joy and love I want, not only in my own home, but also in the homes of my clients—because if I am not feeling grounded and connected to myself, I can’t offer those qualities to anyone else. Not to my kids, not to my friends, not to my clients.

I found that changing just a few patterns allowed me to show up in my life feeling more connected to myself and has made it easier for me to help others reach for that experience in their own homes.

How I did it: I claimed an area in my home to sit quietly and have a little morning “me” time. Below is an area in a client’s home that is the perfect spot for getting quiet and grounded.

No one ever could have convinced me that I would find the time to actually be alone and quiet in the morning, but I can tell you that by accepting the invitation that my newly-designed “me” corner offers, the space for taking time has opened up. Even more surprising, all of a sudden I found myself skipping my ritual glass of wine every night, waking earlier in the morning, and starting my day with a ritual green smoothie instead.

Is there a space in your home that is just for you?

Can you rearrange your furniture to place a chair and little side table in the corner of your bedroom? Is there a rarely-used part of the house that you could claim as your own special place to be alone with yourself for 15 minutes (or 30?!?!) in the morning before the house wakes up?

What rituals do you have in place to help you to feel more connected to yourself?

I’d love to hear your replies!

7 Comments

  1. Reed Hearne July 31, 2011 at 9:55 am - Reply

    Awesome advice Laura, Virginia Woolf said it best in A Room of One’s Own and it is still and forever true!

    • Laura Martin Bovard August 1, 2011 at 7:04 pm - Reply

      Oh yes, LOVE Virginia Woolf, one of my college faves. Thanks for commenting Reed!

  2. Julie Feinstein Adams September 12, 2011 at 4:03 pm - Reply

    My morning is full of rituals. There is the morning cup of tea (in a mug nearly the size of my head) that my husband prepares for me every day. In fact each one of us has our “morning beberadge” as my 3-year-old says, my husband’s being coffee and my son’s milk with maple syrup. I guess it’s more an us-time ritual than a me-time ritual but we all pile into the bed and drink our beberadges together and read whatever books my son has selected for us (dinosaurs, sharks). Which makes me think that a new bedside table that better fits our drink cups, and new pillows to support us as we read, might be in order. Not to mention a new headboard. Hmmm…

    I also meditate in that bed every morning. So perhaps new bedding and drapes to refresh the space also…!?! Or a comfortable (and beautiful!) meditation chair in my office to make it more of a “me” space.

    You really have me thinking!

    • Laura Martin Bovard September 12, 2011 at 10:43 pm - Reply

      I like how you are thinking Julie 🙂 just remember- you can’t get it wrong and you’ll never get it done. This is my favorite saying which I take to mean that life is an ongoing process but so is the evolution of a home. Just changing one or two things can bring about shift. I would love to hear if you make any changes and if you do how those changes inspire inner shifts for you and your adorable family.

  3. Julie Feinstein Adams September 22, 2011 at 7:42 pm - Reply

    Thank you for the encouragement to make small changes. I will definitely keep you posted! 🙂

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